Ostrasized

Granny here,

Just sitting here in the wee hours of the morning wondering why a whole family is ostrasized by one family member that have been mistreated in some way by one family member. This isn't fair to those of the same family who may have a different opinion of what has transpired. Everyone don't always agree on the actions of a family member so why should they be left out of a relationship that should be theirs.

This has happened within our family with a nephew whose dad chose to relinquish all contact with his son so the son chooses to punish the entire family by not accepting any contact that has been made toward him. This seems to be harsh punishment for the members of the family that would choose to have a relationship with him and he chooses to ignore it because of the actions of his dad, so much so that he changed his last name to that of his mother.

Family members have nothing to do with the actions or decisions of another family member although efforts may have been made to change the situation but to no avail. Although disagreements happen within families it doesn't mean that the one being disagreed with is thrown to the wayside and forgotten. Families must learn to live with each others decisions and go on with their relationship the best way possible but discarding each other is not an option.

It's been around 25 years now and after accidently finding ways to make contact which I did and was actually responded to in the beginning but now find that none of my advances are accepted in any way. I'm just trying to keep the person informed on his grandmothers condition and information about her that I thought he would find interesting but I guess he will continue to punish the entire family for the actions of his dad. It's sad that families are robbed of relationships that should have been theirs but that happens more than we would like to admit. Life happens!

Speaking from the outside.

Granny here, just saying!